You made sure you had your something old, new, borrowed and now….you’re blue!
It’s been known that some Brides will experience post wedding blues. It makes sense to feel this way. All of the build-up and hype of your big day has simmered down, and if it’s been a few months since your wedding day, the excitement and chatter has probably vanished.
The day that took you 18 months or longer to plan is gone, and that can make anyone quite sad.
It’s not surprising that Brides feel depressed after their wedding, as this is a day they have waited for and looked forward to since childhood. After the wedding and the honeymoon a lot of Brides think there isn’t much to look forward to regarding your nuptials except viewing the wedding photography proofs. Before the big day there’s lot’s of planning, decision making, organizing, festivities and talk about YOU (and your fiance of course). But, now – life is going back to how it was before your wedding – and well, you might be bored.
When I meet with clients for our “Day of Coordination” services, I tell them that they must manage their expectations for their wedding day as things are going to happen – things they will not be able to control or avoid. With any major event, you must look at the big picture; people who love you gathered to celebrate with you and wish you all the best for your marriage. The same goes for after the wedding – look at the big picture; you had a wonderful party filled with love, laughter and happiness – and now, you’re married!!
Marriage like any relationship consists of respect, love, compromise and dedication. Being married means that you are part of a team – a union of two people who love each other, so no matter how sad you feel that the wedding is over, know that you have a partner that has vowed to stick by you through the good and bad.
Settling into married life can take time – so be sure to give yourself time to adjust. Remember that life isn’t perfect, so don’t be bummed out when life doesn’t turn out to be the fairytale you imagined it would be when you walked down the aisle. But, what you can remember is the wonderful day you had when you said “I do”.
Look at your pictures often, reminisce with your hubby and friends about funny stories from the day, and look down at your left hand and smile at the ring that symbolizes your marriage.
Here are some things to do to help you beat the post wedding blues:
1) Recycle your stack of Bridal Magazines. You don’t need to look at them and see all the ideas of things you didn’t do. No “if only’s, but I could have, or I wish I’d done”, just toss ’em, or give them to a newly engaged friend.
2) Make a list of goals you want to accomplish. When planning your wedding you had a hefty “to-do” list, so keep that pattern alive by setting new goals for yourself and your hubs. This will help keep boredom at bay.
3) Go out on weekly or bi-weekly dates with your husband. Spending time together as a married couple will keep your union strong and remind you of all the reasons you said ‘yes’ to this special guy.
4) Relax. Wedding planning is one of the most stressful times in a woman’s life. Take time to enjoy being a newlywed rather than a Bride-to-be.
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